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Building My Handmade Weddding; Step One: Admitting it’s Happening

A pretty picture of some wool because I don’t have anything else to share at the moment.

Last Tuesday, I woke up with a plan. I was going to whip the apartment into shape, make a schedule for the Christmas knitting, take photos of the hand knit goods I have for sale but not up on etsy yet, and finally finish my blog plans and business mapping that I always seems to be half-finished with. I was actually making good headway into getting there too. I sketched out a knitting schedule over my lunch break (that I have since misplaced and have not followed in the slightest), and my mind was working overtime on developing new projects and new promotions. I was going to take over the world with yarn.

Then I unexpectedly had to work Tuesday evening. By the time I left the Museum Tuesday night, I was sick. I had a raging headache, clogged sinuses, and that really horrible fuzzyhead that makes you stupid when you have a cold. It came out of nowhere and I was down. I could focus on nothing more strenuous than silly novels. (I am not complaining. The best part about being sick is that it is a perfect excuse to read as many silly novels as you can.) My plans for world-domination-with-yarn were washed away just as quickly as they had flooded in.

Sort of. I still have plans, and I have a lot I want to do, but I feel like I have been playing catch up for an entire week. I try to put an equal amount of time into Tiny Dino Studios as I do into my day job and last week that just didn’t happen. I am recovering my energy and mental clarity, and I have SO MUCH I want to talk to you guys about, but I’m about a week behind, so please bear with me if I bombard the blog a little bit over the next couple of days. For now, I will lay the ground work for something I have been dying to unburden.

If you were paying attention a couple of posts ago, you probably noticed that I dropped a little announcement in at the bottom of a picture post. Now that it’s had a few days to simmer, I feel like addressing it more substantially.

I am getting married in August 2013. I am giddy about it. I can’t wait. I want to throw a big party for everybody and dance to Roxy Music (and maybe that song that Luke and Lorelai dance together to for the first time at the end of season 4–because I am a huge sap) and tell the world how much I love this man. Now, keeping all of this in mind, I have to confess that most aspects to weddings make me want to vomit in a Mr. Creosote from Monty Python’s The Meaning of Life sort of way.

Anything that says “Mr. and Mrs.” or has cartoon birds kissing or anything that otherwise boils two complicated people who are also part of a nuanced relationship down to little more than the symbols on the door of public restrooms I generally abhor. I can’t eat cake, so there’s no fun in looking at them and Bridal magazines make me want to withdraw from society when they proclaim “Dream Wedding on a Budget: Under $10,000”

I think I choked when I read that. $10,000?! You have got to be effing joking! I was thinking closer to $1000, not including rings. If I can make that include the rings, I will be happy. I am cheap and not ashamed of it.

Now, I am not putting down anyone who has spent $10,000 on their nuptials, nor anyone who had one of those Save the Date cards that had a Mr. and Mrs. banner. You did the wedding you wanted, your way (I hope). I just know that these things aren’t representative of who I am, or who Brock (I have the impulse to start calling him The Professor on the blog, just for the hell of it. That might start now) and I are as a couple.

We are simple, build it yourself kind of people with big dreams. Both a little shy sometimes, but we make each other laugh. And we dance together all jerky and uncoordinated like because it’s fun. He makes Mr. Darcy jokes, because he is the perfect man. We are not above being sappy and romantic.

So, here I am, thinking about how to plan this wedding, not being inspired by just about anything I see on websites or Etsy or at the craft store. I did start a board on Pinterest which basically just reinforces that I like yellow and flowers–something that we all already knew. But nothing has struck a chord in me just yet.

By now, if you are still reading, I am sure you are wondering where I am going with this little rant of mine. I’ll tell you.

I want a simple, pretty, handmade wedding.

Here’s what I’ve got so far:
The wedding will be at Brock’s The Professor’s family farm.
The wedding will take place in August, in Kansas, in the country. That means there should be *fingers crossed* no shortage of sunflowers.
I will make decorations and favors myself, as well as whatever necessary gifts will be given.
The affair will be fairly informal.

Now, here’s the fun part: I am taking you along with me on the journey of figuring out all the niggling little details of this great big party. And I need ideas. I will be searching out and sharing what I find over the next 8ish months on the way to making this thing a reality, because I have no idea where to begin. And if you have any tips or tricks, I would love to hear them.

5 thoughts on “Building My Handmade Weddding; Step One: Admitting it’s Happening

  1. If something is out of your crafty range, look locally. There are some amazing cakes to be found coming out of someones home kitchen for a lot less than a fancy store. Plus, its word of mouth advertising. Same with photographers. If you want a fancy (or just dressy) outfit, check thrift stores. Where I volunteer, we’ve had $3,000 gowns come in and go out the door for $50. A good dry cleaning later and its good as new. Hair might be done either by following an idea on pinterest or at a local BOCES center. Dollar stores can be your savior if you need things like napkins, plates, table cloths. Who cares if its paper instead of bone china? Local churches and groups might rent chairs and tables, never hurts to ask. Don’t panic, every little thing will NEVER just fall into place, thats what makes this your wedding and not the magazines weddings. Roll with the punches, don’t be afraid to ask for help, and really don’t be afraid to say “no”.

  2. John and I did ours at a little over $1000 for everything- and that included buying a sewing machine so I could make my dress, plus the rings and the marriage license fee. We asked for help from whoever was talented- one friend made the cake, another played music, people came down to help us decorate, we made our decorations ourselves, and we did potluck instead of gifts And of course, you surely remember some of this). For being so cheap, it was an awesome wedding, and it sure was less stressful than most events I plan now.

  3. Yeah, don’t buy that $10,000 crap. We did ours for under $3000 and the biggest part of that was the rental for the building and catering. I’d say sit down with Brock and decide what you guys want to splurge on/can’t live without and what you think isn’t necessary.
    I agree with previous commentor Raven too. Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Our families both came in and made the wedding what it was (and it sure didn’t hurt the budget either 😉

  4. Oh, also! My dad performs weddings for all sorts of types (traditional, non christian, chinese, etc) so if you’re looking for someone to do that sort of thing, I can totally pass on his info to you (and vice versa, of course)

  5. When we got married it was for under $3,000 including rings. He asked on December 8th and we said I do on the 24th. If you ever have the chance to plan a wedding at Christmas and in two weeks time… Please learn from me and don’t. It can be done but I’m still surprised that I wasn’t bald from pulling my hair out by the end of it.

    Oh and I am completely convinced that the wedding industry is here for no other reason than to make women crazy.

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